Biology of Trauma® Podcast
With Dr. Aimie Apigian MD, MS, MPH

Episode 42: Unlocking The Role Of Disguised Grief in Health

"..Unpleasant feelings are designed for protective purposes. That's why they exist. So think unpleasant feelings for protection and pleasant feelings exist for connection..."
Dr. Joan Rosenberg

Show Notes:

In this episode, Dr. Aimie Apigian and Dr. Joan Rosenberg explore the complex relationship between emotions, particularly disguised grief, and our overall well-being. The episode is divided into two sections: the first delves into the concept of disguised grief and its impact on health, while the second offers strategies to manage emotional responses. Dr. Rosenberg shares her unique perspective on why we should lean into unpleasant feelings and how they serve protective purposes. The episode aims to answer the question: How do our emotions, particularly disguised grief, affect our biology and overall health?


What you will hear in this episode:
  • Key Takeaways:

    • Understanding the protective purpose of unpleasant feelings [03:00]
    • The concept of disguised grief and its impact on health [05:00]
    • The role of the vagus nerve in emotional regulation [09:00]
    • The importance of being emotionally present [13:00]
    • The Grief Reset Protocol by Dr. Joan Rosenberg [25:00]
    • The high energy cost of shutting down emotions [14:00]
    • The essence of aliveness is in the range of feelings we experience [06:00]
    • The 90-second rule for riding the wave of unpleasant feelings [12:00]
    • The categories of disguised grief: what we got and didn’t deserve, what we deserved and didn’t get, what never was, what is not now, and what may never be [18:00]
    • The societal lack of understanding how to deal with disguised grief [24:00]


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2 Responses

  1. I’ve experienced trauma due to a toxic relationship (I’m physically out of) that nearly ruined my life. I am experiencing some health challenges and would like to know how to be healthy again. This podcast was exactly what I needed to hear. Because of what I experienced, I would like to help other women heal, and come out of this dark, conceited journey, and be whole again.

    Thank you so much for your podcast and I would like to be part of the 21-day journey.

  2. Hi Dr. Amy,

    I listened to your podcast this afternoon regarding “Diguised Grief.” It was fabulous!!!!!!
    Understanding how we carry grief in our bodies and riding out the waves/emotions when they come up.
    Keep up the GREAT WORK!!!!! YOU are making a difference in this world. You are helping tons of people with your work. So people better understand what they experiencing and not feeling so alone & isolated in the world.

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